The Hardship Mothers (Almost) Never Talked About - A Motivational and Inspirational Story about Mothers Hardship


As Salaamu 'alaykum and peace to all,

The Hardship Mothers (Almost) Never Talked About - A Motivational and Inspirational Stories about Mothers' Hardship

I was driving passing by a hotel last week and saw a large billboard announcing the arrival of Mother's Day.

Mother's Day already? Immediately my eyes became watery and my heart felt heavy. It has been more than 12 years my mum left us, but, the sadness i felt every single time i thought about her made it seemed just like yesterday she went away to meet her Creator.

May Allaah bless her soul with His Mercy and Love, make her temporary home wide and bright, and bestowed upon her His Paradise as her eternal abode, ameen...

I have always remembered what Allaah said about mothers especially in this verse in His Holy Book,

“And We have enjoined on man to be dutiful and kind to his parents. His mother bears him with hardship and she brings him forth with hardship, and the bearing of him, and the weaning of him is thirty (30) months, till when he attains full strength and reaches forty years, he says: "My Lord! Grant me the power and ability that I may be grateful for Your Favour which You have bestowed upon me and upon my parents, and that I may do righteous good deeds, such as please You, and make my off-spring good. Truly, I have turned to You in repentance, and truly, I am one of the Muslims (submitting to Your Will).”[Soorah Al-Ahqaf 46:15]

Absolutely true, don't you think?

Ask any mother and they could tell you tens of stories of the difficulties and harship they faced bearing their babies for 9 months, then, the hours of labor they went through, plus having to put up and tolerate the years and years of their children (aka us!)whining and complaining while raising us up!

Yes, those are just a few examples among the hardships they had to endure just to see us grow into a full blown person!

But i realized something too. In all those stories they relate to us, there is definitely one kind of hardship they rarely talk about.

Are you curious what it is?

It is the challenged melting all the extra pounds they gained while eating healthy and nutritious food all for the sake of their little darling fetus in their wombs!

Yup, i just think i saw a few heads nodding! Just ask any mother on this, and i could be almost 99% sure that they would agree with me :))

I thought walking could be a good suggestion to lose pounds until i came across what Ellen Degeneres has to say about it,

You have to stay in shape. My grandmother, she started walking five miles a day when she was 60. She's 97 today and we don't know where the hell she is.

Yikes! Guess walking is definitely not for everyone, huh?

So, i asked a friend of mine, Jason Moriarty who owns an All Ladies Club Fitness Gym, called Tropic's Fitness about shedding off the pounds for new mummy.

And Jason has been so kind to write a short article for new mothers who are trying hard to regain their 'original' shape! This is his advice,

Exercise after Pregnancy

So you have just delivered your little pride and joy after nine months of carrying theme around. Now you look down and wonder where you waist line went, and decided it is time to get back in shape.

Most new mums are worried about how much they have gained over the nine months and feel that they must be the mum that gained the most weight ever.

Relax, it is normal to gain between 25-30 llbs during pregnancy some
recommendations go as high as 40llbs depending on pre pregnancy BMI.

The good news is that you will loose 17-20llbs at birth, the not so
good news is the last 5llbs or so. Do not worry to much as some regular exercise will help to get rid of the this.

When to Start
Providing you have had a normal delivery it is ok to begin exercising immediately, now I know some cultures require a month’s confinement for the new mum. You can still do some light exercise around the house.

Begin with some light cardio; I prefer to use the recumbent bike,
Though walking is usually acceptable make sure you use the correct
shoes to give good support. Add in some strength training. The key
here is to make gradual increases, be consistent with your exercise,
if you work out regularly you will see results.

Most people focus on the tummy exercises only, and wonder why they
Don’t see results, it is important to do a whole body workout as this
will raise and maintain your metabolic rate resulting in a steady
reduction in body fat over time.

Some signs that you should slow down or stop altogether and seek
medical advice. Increased fatigue, muscle aches and pains, colour
changes to lochia flow ( vaginal flow) pink or red.

If it has been some time since you gave birth (12 months or more)
then you can sign up with a local gym and get a good trainer, don't be
shy ask if they have experience of working with women after birth.

The programme should incorporate a carido section as well as a
strength training programme typically 12 to 14 exercises.

Thanks Jason!

So, for the ladies out there, there you go!

Despite the myth, you could actually still lose those extra pounds gained during pregnancy. The main idea is to exercise lightly and take it easy. InshaAllaah, no sooner than later, those extra pounds will start to melt away...

And if light exercises still is not your cup of tea, perhaps you would like to try what Randy Glasbergen suggested here!

Thank you for calling the Weight Loss Hotline. If you'd like to lose a half pound right now, press 1 eighteen thousand times.

Ermmm... okay...


Wait! Are you kidding me?


(Note: Jason Moriarty is the CEO of Tropic’s Fitness. After over 17 years in the fitness industry, Mr. Moriarty has created his own fitness company, Tropic’s Fitness – a unique, ladies’ only gym that offers a friendly and supportive environment for women to improve their lives and health. Jason a British Graduate, in Business and Finance went on to study gymnasium management; he is also a graduate of the American Council of Exercise and a Nautilus Master Trainer.

Prior to moving to Asia Mr. Moriarty was a business manager for Serco Plc. a leading publics listed company company. Providing cost effective solutions for the management and growth of Government facilities in particular the leisure sector.

Moriarty has also provided consultation and training for a number of prestigious companies such as Serco PLC. Raffles Hotel Group, Sheraton Imperial, Grand Hyatt, Celebrity Fitness, Gold’s Gym Inc.

Currently working on a no frills concept for Tune Hotels a Tony Fernandes project and a software programme for gym management with Microsoft. He can be reached at

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Anonymous said…
salam sis,

sorry about ur mom...May Allah bless her...dont be sad dear,u have us to lighten ur days!

thank you for making me realised how grateful i am to have a mother that i can kiss and hug...i love her so much...

happy mothers day to all mothers in the world!!!
Zayna said…
Assalaamu alaiki!

Sister Zabrina I have read your blog for awhile now and I just wanted to let you know that I appreciate what you do. May Allah Reward You for reminding us of the things that really matter!
ida said…
thanx sis for continuously remind me with ur writing..This is 1 of my favorite blogs..May Allah bless you..

p/s : i've bought ur book and its great!
Sis Zabrina said…

As Salaamu 'alaykum and peace to all,

Dearest sis Anonymous,Ameen to your prayers! And yes, you are very fortunate to still have your mother with you sis. Appreciate her while our Lord still allows you the time. May you and your mum love each other for eternity, ameen.

Hugs and Salaams
Sis Zabrina
Sis Zabrina said…

As Salaamu 'alaykum and peace to all,

Salaams Sis Zayna, Ameen to your prayers. I have visited your blog too and i absolutely love the content! I think a lot of women would love to know how you 'did it' so successfully too! I have never lost that much weight in one week. One thing for sure, you are wondrous commitment and self-restraint! Bravo sis!

p/s Could share share with me a tip or two?

Hugs and Salaams
Sis Zabrina
Sis Zabrina said…

As Salaamu 'alaykum and peace to all,

Salaam Sis Saidah, JazakAllaah khayran for making Life Storyteller Blog one of your fav blog! 'We' are truly honored and jazakAllaah khayran once more for getting your copy of Life is an Open Secret. InshaAllaah, i pray that it benefited you, and if it does, please do tell others about it, inshaAllaah! Hope to see you here more!

Salaams and Hugs
Sis Zabrina
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Sis Zabrina said…

As Salaamu 'alaykum and peace to all,

Dearest Sis Khawla, JazakAllaah khayran dearest sis! I am glad to know you liked it here. Do come often as we have loads of sharing going on here, inshaAllaah!

Hugs and Salaams
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